When you start a new job, one has the opportunity to meet a lot of new people, which I
have been doing lately. This can be a tiring process because you are usually trying to put your “best self” forward. Despite the effort, it is a process that I enjoy. I mean – I really love connecting with people. So I guess it’s no surprise that I have personal cards that literally say “So nice to meet you!” on the back. Yes, really. I do.
While I was reflecting on this cycle of meeting new people, I heard myself think (you all do that right- talk “out loud” to yourself in your head?), “I like that I like people so much.” I like being this kind of person, whatever it’s called. An anti-misanthrope, I guess.
In fact, I realized that I often kinda fall in love with people as I am getting to know them.
Not in an “I want to date you way”, but rather in the sense of realizing that this person is unique, and interesting, and full of stories that I want to learn more about. Like everyone else, as I get to know people there are some with whom I resonate or click more than others. On the flip side, it often goes the other way, when that first thrill of getting to know someone cools to something more like a casual interest or can even go steeply downhill. I won’t pretend that there aren’t also a whole bunch of people that also drive me crazy.
Now, the point of me sharing this is I realized that it felt good to take a few minutes and think about something that I really like and enjoy about myself. I admit that may sound strange, but I think I may be on to something. I want to invite you to think about something you really like about yourself. Whether it’s that you are funny, or a smart-ass, or wicked-smart; whatever that thing is (and hopefully you have LOTS of these things come to mind), whatever that first thing is- spend a few minutes examining it in your mind, or even writing it down. What are the gems in your treasure chest?
We spend so much time being critical of ourselves- and if you are anything like me, you can pick up that flaw and examine the HELL out of it- zooming in, zooming out, looking at it from every angle, rehashing how incredibly crappy you are in that one way, until you mind’s eye hurts from focusing on it so intently that you toss it aside in disgust. I would bet big money that we don’t spend anywhere near the same amount of time looking at the positives within ourselves.
So, examine a characteristic or trait within yourself, handle it the way you would some beautiful piece of glass or object d’ art. Hold it up to the light, stare into the depths of it, and think about why that thing makes you feel good.
Maybe share it with a friend or a loved one. See how it feels to say, “I love that I am so funny!” or “I have always loved that I can pick up sports so quickly (that would NOT be me, just for the record)”. Or if that’s a step too far, just set it gently back on its shelf to be admired another day.
I have this hunch that if you spend a few minutes a day picking out and marveling at all the good or fun or interesting things about yourself, you’ll find a little spring in your step and a smile on your face.
So you have an assignment and I want to hear how it goes. After a week, did it turn you into an insufferable ego-maniac or did you find yourself bobbing around like Mary Poppins or somewhere in between? If it was a fun experiment- share this post with your friends and family. I’m not gonna lie- it makes my day whenever someone shares or talks to me about a post I have written. So, thank you!
I hope you find a lot of gems to admire within yourself!