Locked and Unloaded: Getting Real About Gun Safety

I was in my favorite place on earth, Winthrop, WA, a few weeks back to celebrate the 4th of July. Winthrop is charming, rustic, Western-themed town that today continues the tradition of being a hub for ranchers and farmers, and importantly has transitioned into a tourist destination for those seeking active getaways in a beautiful valley. On a busy summer weekend, every car on the street will bristle with all manner of outdoorsy paraphernalia from mountain & road bikes, to kayaks and inner tubes, to camping and hunting gear, bulging from Thule roof racks.

We were enjoying a break from mountain biking ourselves, strolling down the diminutive main drag, ducking in and out of the shops, without a care in the world- when it happened. One moment I was saying something to my 6 1/2 year old daughter, and the next moment I was staring at a gun. Now, it wasn’t pointed at me, but it was about eight inches from my daughters face, so to say my heart skipped a beat is an understatement. It was as out of place as if someone had walked up and slapped me.

The man in front of me was participating in the practice known as open carry. As in, I have a gun stuck in the back of my pants and I want you to know it. The gun was in some kind of fanny-pack (he’d call it a holster) and it was perched there like a flower stuck in a vase- a very deadly flower. My initial reaction was shock followed quickly by anger. Then, almost as quickly as he was in front of me, he was gone. He turned into the next shop and we kept moving down the block toward our destination.

However brief that moment was, it was a lightening strike. As bright and harsh as a fiery bolt of electricity, it illuminated in a flash why open carry is so harmful.

Let’s Get One Thing Straight

Let me state emphatically- I am not opposed to gun-ownership and I am a supporter of intelligent gun rights. Please don’t read any secret agenda into that- I truly support the right to bear arms and given the chance, I’ll happily have a dialogue about the parameters that should be implemented to ensure everyone who wishes to, can enjoy and own guns safely. The comparison to car ownership and operation may seem like a cliched argument (and may not be enshrined in the constitution- because let’s be honest, it would be an amendment about horse ownership) but it is incredibly relevant and apt. I’ll come back to that in a little bit. In fact, NYT Opinion Columnist, Nicholas Kristof, just had some great thoughts about this idea.

Like most Americans, I have many friends who are hunters and frankly, if you are a meat eater, you are a bit of a hypocrite if you don’t support hunters. I admire the ability to dress a kill and have enjoyed the fruits of these endeavors (whether as jerky or steaks). When the zombie apocalypse happens, I’ll be glad to count these folks as friends. Further, I have many friends who enjoy owning a handgun and although we may argue about whether or not possessing a gun actually makes them safer- in many ways that’s beside the point, they have the right to own a firearm.

Not to mention, the United States has the highest rate of firearm ownership in the world, 97 guns for every 100 people; 50% more than the next two closest countries (those paragons of civil society, Serbia & Yemen)- so to a very real degree, regardless of your feelings on the subject- guns are here to stay. No one (at least not me) is arguing that fact.

What I do want to address is the impact of reducing the complex issue of gun regulation to a one-dimensional “all or nothing” argument. It’s ridiculous. We should feel embarrassed as a nation to allow that kind of shallow invocation to distract us from the real opportunity and need in front of us. We must find a way, both in terms of our laws and more importantly, in our attitudes and social mores, to ensure public safety and security. To do nothing is selfish, arrogant, and short-sighted. One place to begin is with a careful look at the impact of open carry on social dynamics, freedom of speech, and safety.

The Reality of Open Carry

Back to that moment in the sun in Winthrop. Recall, the open carry individual and I didn’t even make eye contact, though my first impulse was to reach out and tap him on the shoulder. I wanted to ask him, “What the HELL are you thinking?” How dare you introduce that kind of threat into our peaceful afternoon? What if my daughter had tripped and instinctively reached in front of her to catch herself? What if I had tripped (a pretty common occurrence) and stumbled into him? What if he thought I was a threat? An unarmed person, even one spoiling for a fight, would do no more than push me, but this guy- who’s arrogance and slavish devotion to belief puts every member of the community at a very real physical disadvantage. He could shoot me. He could KILL me. In front of my daughter. And he might even successfully claim it was self-defense. That’s the reality we invite when we tolerate open-carry in the public sphere.

It’s important to note that in Washington State, open carry is legal (even without a permit), so this man wasn’t legally doing anything wrong, but he was in a very tangible way, impacting every person around him, by destabilizing the dynamics of power, community, and freedom from fear that our society relies upon to function.

Critics may move to dismiss my assertion as hysterical or naive, but that’s the lazy voice of misdirection. The crux of the issue is this: when one person has a gun and another doesn’t, the person without a gun has less power, less voice, and in point of fact, can be under threat of death in an instant. Standing eight inches behind that open carry person as a pedestrian, I was “safe”. However, I have no doubt that I could have provoked the guy into shooting me (perhaps with words alone) and that is not okay. It is not okay that my ability to speak and move about on a public street was limited because one guy had a pointless point to make. The other lazy answer to this is to arm *both* people. But we know that’s a violence multiplier, not a violence reducer. It’s bananas to think that any rational person would want to live in a society where we all walk around armed.

Cars vs. Guns

Back to the cars vs. guns analogy. Although the right to own a car is not in the Constitution (again, it would be a horse amendment), US car ownership is on par with gun ownership; particularly with respect to other nations. We have the highest level of car ownership in the world. Car ownership and what it represents in real terms and psychologically, is vitally important to America and yet, we have a whole body of comprehensive laws that folks are more or less happy with and abide by. It is not only against the law to drive on the sidewalk in the US, but it’s also socially unacceptable. You may laugh, but that’s NOT true in all other countries. Social norms in Kenya (where I lived as a Peace Corps volunteer), dictate that cars can drive wherever they can fit- sidewalks, center dividers, into on-coming traffic- whatever they can get away with. Through enforcement of our laws and our social norms, we have made car ownership a reasonably safe and regulated prospect. Insurance, training, safety features, consumer protections. Remember when seat belts weren’t mandatory in cars? Okay, me neither- the law was changed in 1968, but I DO remember when it became the law to *wear* a seat belt in California in the mid ’80’s.

Only someone grossly out of touch with reality would *ever* suggest we abolish cars in the United States. It’s not even a serious conversation, BUT it is a good discussion to talk about ways to continue to improve safety, efficiency, affordability, and alternate methods of transportation. The same holds true for gun legislation. Criminal background checks for gun buyers has overwhelming popular support among Republicans and Democrats and yet it becomes Kryptonite the minute Capitol Hill goes near it. And it’s true- no one piece of legislation will be a silver bullet (see what I did there?), but again, that’s beside the point. That’s like saying that seat belts don’t save ALL the lives, so let’s just forget them. We must take some moderate, common sense steps toward improving the safety and security of guns for the benefit all Americans.

Our Collective Responsibility

Changing our attitudes and laws takes courage and it will, ultimately take trust. So I am taking a first step, gathering my courage and showing trust. It was difficult for me to write this post. I had to consider whether someone might decide that my voice, my words, would be considered a threat to their “security” or “freedom”. In writing this, do I put my family at risk? As a parent, this is a sickening question to ponder. But the answer is- if I don’t speak up, if I don’t advocate for common sense, if I don’t call for the nation to join together in support of safety for all, in conjunction with (not at the expense of) the rights of the individual, who will? There are many individuals and organizations doing this, but we haven’t seen the groundswell of moral conviction and support that must be present to change, not just the laws, but our society itself. Again- it’s crucial to reject the urge to marginalize or derail progress by sounding the “slippery slope” alarm. It’s a specious cry and one that Americans must step up and prove that we are smarter than.

So, my call to action? Share this post, comment on this post, write your own post. Get involved. Add your voice. Conventional wisdom would say call your senator or representative, but maybe it’s time to expand our approach. Contact your local gun store, contact your local NRA chapter, your hunting club, your shooting range. Contact the gun manufacturers- tell them you will support the makers and sellers who are committed to responsible gun ownership.

As for my encounter in Winthrop? It was a grim reminder of what we are allowing to become “the norm” in the public sphere.


About jenlocati

JENNIE LOCATI started her blog, WYS Words as a way to share her experiences as a professional woman, wife, mother, and irrepressible “do-gooder”. Her diverse life experiences have taken her to Kenya as a Peace Corps volunteer, the trading floors of Wall Street, to PATH, and most recently back to Microsoft, where she works in product development. Jennie shares her many misadventures, occasional insights, and unique perspectives in a voice that is self-deprecating, honest, and authentic. Read more at www.wyswords.com

Posted on July 31, 2014, in Big Ideas and tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 8 Comments.

  1. Reblogged this on gemma D. alexander and commented:
    Gun laws are off-topic for this blog, and I quote Jennie’s WYS Words too often for any writer of original material. But this post is literally the first time I’ve heard another American make a gun control argument more nuanced than, “Guns are bad!” or “You commies are trying to take my guns away!” America has so many political nonstarter issues where actual discourse is out of the question that the country is paralyzed. Until we start talking – actually talking and not parroting lobbyist talking points – progress of any kind on any issue is impossible. Personally, I am more concerned about the fact that it’s easier to buy a gun than a car in America than I am about open carry (frankly, if I’m sharing space with someone who’s carrying, I’d prefer to know about it). But I applaud Jennie’s call for reasonable discourse on one of too many American hot button issues.


  2. guninsuranceblog

    I’m glad to see this posting talk about more than the laws and possible laws for guns. There are many things that are legal but not wise. Most gun ownership and use fits that category. We all have temporary slips of carelessness and of temper. There are reports of guns left in washrooms on a regular basis. Many guns are discovered at airports where people have an especially good reason to remember what they have in their bags but forget anyway. About half of those guns have a round in the chamber. Keeping a round in the chamber is crazy. It trades a substantial chance of an unintended shooting for a miniscule chance that it will make a difference for the good in a crisis situation.

    Formerly responsible people discover that their new level of responsibility is being responsible for shooting or killing someone, most often themselves, intentionally or otherwise. We need a culture of responsibility around guns. In that culture, the number people who decide to be armed will be vastly reduced and the carnage with it.


  3. markprater@ymail.com

    This article seems to be about open carry. You don’t have a problem with concealed carry? Would you feel safer with concealed carry? I would like to know the difference. Is it because what you don’t know what is there can’t scare you but it’s there just the same?


  4. I appreciate the sentiment here. I am also interested in seeing people communicate across the divide and see each other as fellow countrymen and -women rather than two mass antagonists, as all the noise from the fringes would try to steer us.


  5. Reposting, with permission, a comment from my friend, Rick, who shared his thoughts with me via Facebook:
    “This is a damn good article Jennie. I for one appreciate you posting this. More and more states are allowing open carry, making this an important discussion. I think that your reaction to the man (let’s call him Ted) in the shop was because the scenario was so unexpected. If Ted were garbed in a police or military uniform I bet you wouldn’t have thought twice about it. You may have even encouraged your kids to greet Ted with a cheery hello if you knew he was a legitimate figure of authority but you didn’t. You saw some random guy openly carrying a handgun with uncertain credentials that you could not possibly confirm. I personally consider open carry (in public) as an underhanded way to exert psychological control over others. My experience is that a good handful of open toters simply have a distasteful urge to flaunt and intimidate, spawned directly from their own insecurities. Open carry in public is simply more dangerous than concealed carry. A few reasons I think why:

    1. It allows aspiring criminals to quickly target others with deadly potential to stop them.
    2. It’s a display of aggression that makes the general population extremely uncomfortable.
    3. A determined criminal without a gun can mug an open carrier, take and use said gun.
    4. Potential for altercations when a heckler challenges the open carrier’s rights.
    5. Police resources are wasted when responding to ‘there is a person with a gun’ calls.

    With concealed carry you virtually eliminate all of these risks. Would it surprise you to know that I hold a concealed handgun permit here in Texas and that I ALWAYS carry a concealed pistol when I’m in public with my kids? I’m no gun nut and I certainly don’t buy stock in the myriad of kooky doomsday scenarios other than the sun burning out four billion years from now. So why do I do it? Well for one, I’ve been around guns my whole life. All kinds of guns. For me personally, there is nothing taboo or mystic about them at all. They are merely tools that can TRULY protect lives during the direst of circumstances (I know this is beyond the scope of your article). I get that not everyone sees it that way. The reality is that guns are only as safe as the education, training and respect of their handlers. To me, carrying a concealed pistol is a VERY private affair when in public. Your reaction to the open toter you encountered illustrates perfectly why it should be kept private. My reaction to Ted would have been similar to yours. I would’ve written him off as a silly impotent show off while resenting his contempt for others around him. And that’s really what Ted’s aim was (pun intended); to be a jack ass and get a rise out of folks for his own ego fix. As we pursue laxer gun laws I certainly don’t think open carry solves anything.

    Do I teach my kids about guns? I certainly do. I’m at the beginning stages of teaching my 7 year old daughter how to shoot and safely handle a pistol. At this point I just let her overlay her hands onto mine as we aim together and shoot. She enjoys learning how it works but more importantly she is learning what is required to correctly and safely use an unfamiliar tool that could potentially save her life one day.”

    What I love about Rick’s reply is that it exemplifies the kind of conversation that I am calling for. Rick and I have made different choices and have different views about how guns will play a role in our PERSONAL lives- and that’s okay. In fact, that’s AWESOME. That’s what personal freedom is all about. But, we also have a lot of common ground when it comes to public safety and the impact of choices, like open carry, on communities. This kind of common ground is what we, as a people, can build from. I WANT Rick to pursue his hobby and interest safely and freely. In fact, if we lived closer, I would enjoy learning more about shooting from him.

    I’m so grateful to Rick and others who have reached out and commented. It’s inspiring and appreciated. I know that we all won’t agree and don’t expect to persuade everyone with my comments. Heck- I know there are some who feel my views are too moderate too.

    Please keep the comments coming! Thanks again!


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